Rambling

Hi guys! I am really sorry that I have been so MIA lately but in all honesty, I haven’t had much to write about. I have little things here and there that I want to touch base on but I never feel like the topics warrant a full post. I figured I may as well just lump all of my “thoughts” here so I can get it all out there and then move on from there, fresh and clean.

  • My weekly skin care feature was super short lived. For those of you who were really into it, I apologize. The thing is, I know my skin really well and I know what it needs and when. Using the same products every single day was really great in that I got to finish up some products and get a good idea of what effects they had in the long term. However, using the same, for example, acid on my face every single day, even when I knew I shouldn’t, wreaked havoc on my skin. I have something called “perioral dermatitis”…PD for short. It’s basically a mix of acne and exzema and it’s hideous and painful. It flares up every now and again but during the “Weekly Skin Care Routine” weeks the PD flared like CRAZY! Whenever this happens I usually limit myself to really “natural” products and reduce my chemical exfoliation, but because I had committed to trying things for the entire week, I felt obligated and my skin was NOT happy as a result. Anyone else struggle with PD? I got my first flare up when I was 18 and working as a school bus washer. Yes, a school bus washer. I think all of the chemicals I was using to clean the buses really fucked with my face and since then, I have had 1-2 flare ups a year. Sometimes I have to battle the PD with antibiotics but I’ve been trying to do the wholistic route this last time. I’m mostly cleared right now…crossing my fingers that I am flare up free for a long while. So annoying!
  • MJ and I are planning to try for a baby soon. I know. Crazy! In doing so, I have really tried to cut back on my frivlous spending. I’ve stayed home instead of going out and I’ve cut back on makeup and clothing shopping. Therefor, I haven’t had much to review and/or show you in terms of purchases. I DID, however, get the entire Jaclyn Hill Champagne Glow collection and I was thinking of doing a makeup tutorial using those products. I haven’t done a tutorial in a long while, so I thought that would be fun.
  • If you follow me on Facebook and Instagram, then you’ve noticed that I’ve been pretty spotty in my posts. While I’ve been consistently using Snapchat, I’ve just been hating all other social media lately….mostly Facebook. Ugh. You guys, why is everyone so freaking angry?! Every time I log on, it’s someone complaining about something or acting like they are the authority on some topic and it drives me nuts. I’m not saying I’m not guilty, because I am, but if I post something “ranty”, it’s because I am so fed up and feel the need to remind people that they are being nuts. I need to stop doing that, but it’s hard. I am seriously considering deleting my personal Facebook. My biggest pet peeve is when people approach things as “authorities” instead of “learners”. I do not know one single expert in any field. The world would be a whole lot nicer if everyone approached one another from a place of growth and learning. Why does everyone feel the need to force change on others? If we educated people instead of bullied people then I bet people would be a lot more willing to talk about their differences. I don’t know guys….people are crazy. It’s really hard to handle. Being nice matters guys.
  • Further… (sorry I’m not done ranting lol), social media seems to make people really jealous and crazy. I have a hard time with this because I genuinely do not understand being jealous. If I’m on social media and I see someone skinnier than me, I do not get jealous. If someone on Instagram posts a vacation photo in Italy, I do not get jealous. Wanna know why? Because our priorities are different and I AM NOT that person. I could afford to go to Italy as long as I sacrificed others things. For example, I could go to Italy if MJ and I decided to be a “one car family” and if we lived in a smaller home, but, I like living where I am living and it’s important to me to be able to go wherever I want, whenever I want. Could I be super skinny? Yes. If I didn’t value eating out and drinking with friends on the weekends and relaxing on the couch with my husband and dogs on the weekdays. But I do. So I’m not. I don’t understand why more people don’t recognize this. You can have pretty much anything you want but your priorities will have to shift. The people you’re seeing on social media, highlighting certain aspects of their lives, have sacrificed something to have whatever it is that they are showing. The only time you should feel down and out is when your priorities are out of line. Did you miss out on a really fun birthday party for your nephew because you drank too much the night before??? Yup, you should feel bad about that and your priorities should shift. Did you say no to a vacation with your girlfriends because you were saving money for a trip abroad? Then don’t be sad, your priorities are in line for a delayed kind of satisfaction. We need to stop comparing ourselves to everyone else. All we should be doing is making sure that our priorities are in check and we are on the right path towards a life where we are mostly happy (because you’re not supposed to ALWAYS be happy).
  • Most of you know I am working on my doctorate. In the last few months I have been swamped with school work and also with my mind just running through a million ideas all the time. Does that ever happen to you when you’re in a learning environment? I feel like my mind gets stimulated and I can’t stop hypothesizing about things and thinking about human behavior and ….well, yeah. It’s annoying sometimes. I feel like I have adult ADHD. I don’t, but I feel like whenever I’m learning a lot, I have a hard time focusing on one thing because I’m so excited or curious about a million other things. I’ve had a few weeks off from class now and I swear, I’m driving MJ nuts because all I want to do is talk about people’s behaviors and social injustices. Ugh. It seriously gets exhausting. I’ve also spent a lot of time thinking about my dissertation topic and I think I have finally narrowed it down to something to do with mindfulness. This means after I start doing all of this research on mindfulness, I’m going to become a certified Hippie. Do they have Hippie Certification? They should.
  • Keeping on the hippie topic, I’ve started to cut out meat again. I actually think I’m likely going to be meat free for the foreseeable future. I have no interest in meat at all right now and whenever I order it, I end up pushing it all aside and eating the grains/veggies/fruits instead. It’s time…my body is just over it. I’m just really trying to get my body health in line. Last year my asthma doctor scared me when she told me that my lungs were functioning like that of a 60 year old. WHAT?! The next 6 months after that appointment, I was disciplined with my asthma meds and cardio. I went back to the doctor in April and I am so proud to report that my lungs are now functioning like a normal person with asthma. I’ll take it! All of that sorta scary health stuff just makes me realize that I only have one body and I don’t want to have to take 48,384 medicines in order to function in my later adulthood. I gotta take care of my body and I definitely think cutting back on meat, sugar, and eventually dairy, will make a huge difference for me.

Okay, I think that is the end of my rant. My “crazy” is all officially public. I’ll be back to normal posting soon. Do you guys have anything you’d be interested in hearing about? Let me know! PLEASE! xo

One Year Blogging + About Me Update

Woooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It has been OVER one year since I have been blogging. Time flies when you’re having fun!

When I first started this blog, I had every intention of blogging and posting makeup videos several times a week, but since entering my doctoral program, I have found that to be very difficult. Thank you all for sticking by me while I try to manage work/school/life/blog. The balance is a fine one, but I think all things considered, I’m doing okay. My goal for this year is to post more videos. I get so many makeup questions and I definitely want to help ya’ll with that. SO…my promise to you, is more makeup related content in this upcoming year. Hold me to it!

It has been awhile since I’ve just talked about ME in this blog, the last time was when I had only been blogging for 4 months. See here for that post. Since I posted that piece, a lot has changed in my life and so I figured since it has been a year of blogging, it might be a good time to reintroduce myself to all of my readers, new and old.

So. Hiiii! My name is Mary and I am a 31 year old wife and dog mommy. I am a school psychologist by day and a student and blogger by night.  Last summer I was accepted into Loyola’s Doctor of Education (Ed.D) program and I’ve been working hard at that for several months now. I am focusing my studies on the mental health side of things and I am planning, at this point, to write my dissertation on Mindfulness.

When I’m not doing all things work and school, I am spending time with MJ (my really awesome husband) and our THREE dogs. The last time I wrote an “about me” we only had two dogs, after sadly losing our Effie after only 6 short years. This past summer we picked up a goldendoodle named Gus and life is back to normal now that we have three dogs again. Gus is ah-mazing. Smart, loving, independent, and gentle. A great addition to the fam. We wrote all about him HERE so if you’re interested in our puppy and our puppy tips, go check that out.

What else is new and/or exciting? Did I mention ever that MJ started an MBA program??? He is going to the University of Chicago Booth School of Business. Our lives, as a result, have changed drastically. One of the great things about MJ’s current job is that he gets home around noon so before going back to school he had always been able to take care of the dogs and get some chores done too (I told you, he’s amazing). Now that he has class twice a week in the evenings and endless hours of homework, much of his free time is spent studying. I’d be lying if I said it has been an easy adjustment for both of us to be back in school, but we communicate really well and when one of us is feeling kinda lonely, we just talk about it and adjust things. I’m actually really proud of us. I mean, think about it… MJ is working full time, going to school part time (since when is 20 hours a week part time?!), I’m working full time, going to school part time, we have three dogs, we have friends, we have families, we go to the gym at least three times a week (MJ always does!), I write a blog… I mean, wow. We are busy. One area taking a big hit? Our house is super messy. Something’s gotta give right??

I don’t really have anything else new and exciting. MJ is running a marathon in May in Kenosha, Wisconsin. We are going to the Dave Matthews Band show on July 1st, and then we are headed back to Disney after Christmas but other than that, we don’t have any big trips planned this year. We are trying to focus our money into a “future baby” savings account. This is has been hard. I hate to admit this, but I’m totally an “instant grati” sorta girl. If I want something, I want it now. I am bad at saving for the long term. Travel is one of the areas that has taken a hit so that we can plan for the future and while I know it is the “right” thing, I’m also not used to seeing a pretty empty travel calendar. I guess I had to grow up sometime, right?

Okay, nice chat 🙂 This year on the blog, you can expect posts on the following topics: Blue Apron, Makeup, Dog Training, Fitness, Skin Care, Party Planning, Organization, Fashion/Capsule Wardrobes, Shifting Style, etc. etc. and whatever else pops into my head. Any requests??? Leave them below.

ALSO: Whisper Sweet Somethings is going to be redesigned soon. Stay tuned for a fun new layout. Yay!

I love you all. Thanks for reading!

 

 

Catch Up/About Me

You. Guys.

I have been blogging for FOUR months now! FOUR!! How cool is that?! I’ve learned a lot in the time that I’ve been blogging and I must say, I have huge respect for the ladies who make a living out of this. Blogging takes a lot of time and energy… it’s not easy. I have been loving it though and I plan to continue blogging for many years to come.

Something I realized this morning is that many of you have NO idea who I am! When I look at my analytics, only about 36% of my readers are repeat viewers, meaning 64% of you are first time viewers. First, I would love for it to be a 50/50 split, 50% new readers, 50% repeat customers, but this is what it is right now. Second…that’s not the point haha, the point is, I need to introduce myself! It’s not fun to read and head the advice of someone when you have no idea who they are or what they are about, so, here I go.

In addition to the “facts” about me below, you can also learn more about me in my “About” section and also in my first few posts which you can find under the February tab.

  • Basics — Name: Mary Age: 30 Marital Status: Married to MJ (anniversary 10.19.13) Location: Chicago
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  • Historical Info —
    • I am the oldest of three. I have two younger brothers. Christopher (right) is almost 26 and Michael (left) is almost 23.
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    • I was born in Chicago and then raised primarily in Northwest Indiana.
    • For undergrad I went to Indiana University from 2003-2007. I double majored in political science and psychology.Check In About Me
    • I attended graduate school at Loyola University in Chicago from 2008-2011 for School Psychology
  • I met my husband in the weirdest way. MJ works in radio and on my drive to work one morning, I heard himAbout Me on air and thought he sounded really hot. What a weird thing to think, that someone SOUNDS hot…but that’s what happened. As I was listening to him on air I heard him mention that he was at a bar in my neighborhood the night before. You know how they read text messages on radio shows sometimes? Well, I texted in to the station and said that MJ hit on me the night before and that he was terrible with women. It was a big ol’ lie. Long story short, MJ and I became friends on facebook that day, went on a date a few days later, and we were engaged 11 months after that. He is my everything.
  • If I could, I would have a house full of doggies. Right now, MJ and I have two dogs, one named Winnie, a three year old mini goldendoodle, and Stewart, a one year old morkie. Stewart is an anxious little pup so we take him to individual training every two weeks to try and help him handle the world. Last September our tiniest dog, Effie, a yorkie, passed away very suddenly. I consider getting another dog every day…
  • What makes me happiest? Spending time at home with my husband and our dogs, having long dinners full of laughs, long phone conversations, party planning, cooking, playing with makeup, shopping, sleepovers with my girl friends, giving gifts, traveling to new places, and long bubble baths.
  • If it was not clear before, I am a school psychologist. If you’re not sure what a school psych is, I’ll give you the run down… school psychologists are in schools to help students be successful. Most traditionally, we work in the special education department evaluating students for special education services. More recently, school psychs are utilized in many different ways. At my current job, I evaluate students, consult with teachers on effective classroom management, implement interventions, counsel students in a group setting, and counsel in a one on one setting. Within my current position, I have a particular interest in students with autism. At work, I live for the days when a student who has shut down to the world gives me a big ol’ hug. Best feeling in the world.
  • What do I do for fun? I attend a lot of sporting events. This time of year is really busy for me because the Bulls, Sox, and Hawks are all usually playing. This year the Bulls let me down, but I’m over the moon that the HawksAbout Me are fighting for the Cup again. Baseball is my favorite and I have a goal to go to every stadium in the country. I say that every year and never make any progress, but it is a goal nevertheless. What else… I love any event where I can dress in costume so I tend to go to a lot of themed bar crawls though I may be aging out soon. In general, I also really like to plan. I like to look ahead and know that I have fun things coming up, like weddings, bar crawls, baby showers, family dinners, birthday parties. Memories are what make life worth living.

Okay, that’s just a bit about me! On my blog you are likely to find posts about skin care, makeup, fashion, home decor, cooking/diet/weight loss, and travel. I LOVE comments and hope you will interact with me on my posts. I love feedback!! If you want more of me, you can find me on instagram and twitter with the username MaryS257. Hope to talk to you all soon! Thanks for being here. Love you.

xo

Blogger Crush of the Month: April 2015

It’s that time of the month where I fill you in on one of my favorite blogs. In April, I’ve been thinking a lot about the long term. MJ and I have been in our house for almost a year now and I feel we we finally have an idea of how much our monthly house related expenses will be and the stress is going down a bit. Buying a house is a huge commitment, one that we were barely ready for. I love our home and I feel it will be the best investment should we ever choose to move, but it was a financial stress for sure. We’ve had a lot of budget conversations and when I’m looking for fresh ideas on how to save some money or even make some, I’ve been turning to Making Sense of Cents.

Why I Enjoy This Blog:

Michelle talks so openly and honestly about money and I find that to be really refreshing. She is also super logical about it all and I feel like that helps me come back down to earth. Is buying that blush as important as saving for my future?? Not always 🙂

Favorite Posts:

1. Everything You Need To Know About Selling Your Stuff For Cash — this gave me some great ideas about how to declutter and make some dough while I do it.

2. 13 Ways To Simply Manage Your Finances — I am always looking for ways to think about money less so I can enjoy life more. Here are thirteen easy tricks to manage your finances without a lot of work.

3. Bad Money Mistakes Couples Should Avoid — combining money with someone else is not easy. These mistakes can be deal breakers over time for some couples. I love this advice on being open and honest with your significant other on how you will manage money.

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Ask and ye shall receive. The saying is true!

Whisper Sweet SomethingsThe other day I posted about wanting to extend my reach and I was asking my readers for help. Just over 24 hours later, I received a tag on Instagram that I was nominated for an award! “IT’S A MAJOR AWARD!!!!” Goodness I love that movie. Okay, anyway, from my understanding, this award, the Liebster, is a common thing given to bloggers from bloggers to help them get some new readers and put themselves out there into the giant world of blogging. Love the concept! What makes it special to me is that it is given by other bloggers who find your blog interesting and enjoyable to read. I was nominated by Christine at Amidst the Chaos and I want to give her a big giant squeeze right now!

Christine’s blog is a) adorable b) full of great content c) honest and d) well written. This is a perfect blog for those into lifestyle/DIY/recipe posts, especially for the mommy crowd. What I love most is that she’s not afraid to “go there”. I found her posts on postpartum Christine is a fellow Liebster blogger :)depression to be so raw and beautifully honest. If you have not already clicked on over, go check out her blog — Amidst the Chaos.

Alrighty, sooooo for the Liebster there are some rules and questions to be followed and answered.

Instructions for Nominees:

  1. Answer the questions listed below given to you by the person who nominated you (that’s me!)
  2. Please comment on this post with your link when are done so I can see your answers!
  3. In your post, please link back to the person/blog who nominated you (again, me right here!)
  4. After completing your questions and post, nominate other bloggers who are newer or who  you just love and want to share their stuff with the world (suggestions is 5-10).
  5.  Notify your nominees of their nomination and provide a link to your post so that they know what to do.

Questions:

How did you decide on the title of your blog and what’s it about?

My blog name, Whisper Sweet Somethings, goes way way back. In high school and college I kept an online journal that was public to the world. My first platform was Xanga but I eventually moved over to Live Journal. I used the journals to talk about my life, the good and the bad, and also to share with those far away what was going on in the world of Mary. On my Live Journal account my comments were called “Whisper Sweet Somethings”. People would click that link and leave me some love on whatever I had posted that day. Fast forward 10-15 years and when thinking of a blog name, I couldn’t move past what my teenage self had come up with years ago.

I rarely whisper in real life, but on the huge world that is the internet, even the loudest of people are just whispering. The common phrase, “whisper sweet nothings” just didn’t seem to hit it for me, though. I may be whispering into an abyss (the interwebs) but my blog, however “basic” it may be sometimes is a “something” to me if not to anyone else.

I swear I’m not as emo as that all just sounded.

Where does your blogging inspiration come from?

My girlfriends serve as the primary inspiration for Whisper Sweet Somethings. I have an amazing group of girlfriends, many of whom I have known since I was 7 years old. I’m sure I’m not alone in that I learn SO much from my lady friends. While we all lead totally different lives now and have different priorities, I can count on at least one of them asking me a skin care, home decor, or makeup related question pretty regularly. They think I am way cooler than I am and for that, I love them. We are always trying to learn, grow, adapt and evolve and for me, I do that through learning from my friends and admiring their uniqueness. Basically, without them, I’m nothing. Cheesy. Yup. True? Totally.

Additionally, I get a lot of inspiration from my husband. MJ is actually going to featured in a post soon about how he made my new shelving unit in my bedroom. SO nice to have a handy husband.

Can you give 8 random facts about yourself?

-I have recently become OBSESSED with pineapples. Sure, I love to eat them, but I’m more obsessed with the look of them right now. The background of my phone is a pineapple, my phone case has pineapples on it and I drink my coffee out of a pineapple mug.

-My husband works for a big deal Top 40 station in Chicago and I met him through texting into the station and pretending like we had met before. Frankly, I lied and said that he had hit on me. The host of the show called me to try and put me on air but I quickly hung up. One thing led to another and MJ and I were facebook messaging and then texting…and then going on dates. Yada yada, then we got married

-Blogging is not my full time gig, shocked?! 😉 I am a school psychologist. I spend my days working with at risk youth and I wouldn’t trade it for the world.

-I love peonies. MJ is going to try and grow them in our garden this year. So excited!

-It weirds me out when people say Channing Tatum is hot….only because my younger brother looks exactly like him.

-The first concert I attended was when I was 8. I went with my Mom to see Peter, Paul and Mary. Puff the magic Dragon….

-The first 8 years of my life were totally accident prone. My next door neighbor stabbed me with a knife. My aunt hit me with her car. Another neighbor rolled over me with a bike and broke my arm. Was it me?!

-I love the White Sox and I used to be downright obsessed. Other things in my life have taken up more time but at the core, I am a sports lovin’, beer drinkin’ gal.

What is something you’ve been loving lately?

Pineapples!!!! Give me ALL the pineapples!!! If I had a “makeup” room it would be filled with pineapple prints and mugs and pillows.. AHHH!!

What is it you love most about blogging?

I love the comments! It makes my day when people comment on my blog or instagram posts. I got into this to interact with people and without the interaction it wouldn’t be worth it to me. Comment away!!!

What’s your biggest aspiration in life?

Toughest question yet. Wow. I already have a my dream job (school psych) and my dream hobby (blogging) So, I guess someday I want to be a mom and have a beautiful family with my husband. I am not ready yet but I look forward to being a fun, quirky, and creative mom to my kids like mine was to me.

Which other bloggers inspire you?

I follow a lot of blogs but my favorite ones are all generally centered on being real and having fun. It seems that bloggers have a tendency to portray only their best sides and I find that to be a little boring. I like a well staged photo as much as the next but I also love to see someone cuddling with their kids or falling on their asses. With that being said, my favorite BIG blogs are: A Beautiful Mess, Caroline Hirons, and Essie Button.

Describe yourself in one sentence.

I am totally awkward. While that totally sums me up, there has to be more, right? No… “I am totally awkward” is totally perfect.

WOOOO! Okay, I nominate:

Thanks again Christine! YAY! xo